Help & Support

Our primary purpose is to support victims of stalking.

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Our Pledge

At Action Against Stalking, your concerns will be listened to and taken seriously. We provide professional care and support for people as they seek to regain control of their lives. You can talk to us, free from the burden of having to convince anyone that what you are experiencing is real. 

The Throughcare team pledge to our service users:​

We work with multiple agencies to provide a wholly integrated throughcare service. We understand how difficult it can be to report stalking to the Police and we are here to advocate and support you with this.

We are here to support and empower anyone who is experiencing stalking. We understand that stalking is a devastating crime with far-reaching and long-lasting effects and the psychological, physical, emotional, and financial impact a stalker can have. 

Action Against stalking recognises that clients with some protected characteristics (e.g. identifying as LGBTQI+ or as a member of a particular race, nationality or religion) may face additional barriers in accessing support and reporting to the police. We are committed to supporting each person who chooses to access our service in the most empowering and effective way possible. We understand that anyone can experience stalking, but also that your experience of it will be unique to you. If there is anything we can do to make our service more accessible to you, please contact us and we will do our best to help. You can ask us as many questions as you like before you choose whether to engage with us.

Tips & Advice for Victims

Take stalking seriously and trust your instincts.

If you feel like something is wrong or unsafe then it is time to take note. The sooner you report to the police, and the more support you can get, the better it will help you cope.

If you are in immediate danger, call 999.

If you fear you are in immediate danger, do not wait. Call 999 immediately.

Report to the Police as early as you can.

Keep a record of who you speak to and any crime reference numbers. You can access Police Scotland’s online Stalking Reporting Form here.

DO NOT interact with your stalker unless it is unavoidable.

Engaging with a stalker can escalate the situation and increase your vulnerability.

DO NOT block your stalker.

If you block communication channels from the stalker you may lose valuable evidence and the stalker may escalate their behaviours in an attempt to reach you.

Keep a diary or log of any incidents.

Note the date, time, what happened, when and where, any witnesses, (their names and contact details) and how it made you feel. 

Collect as much evidence as you can.

Collect screenshots, photographs, voice messages, emails, gifts, and anything material left by your stalker. What might appear trivial to you could be a crucial piece of evidence for the police.

Tell people you can trust.

If you block communication channels from the stalker you may lose valuable evidence and the stalker may escalate their behaviours in an attempt to reach you.

Seek professional advice and support.

You can refer to Action Against Stalking here or find other sources of support here. 

If Someone You Know is Being Stalked

Listen and Believe.

Hear this person out, comfort them and let them know you want to help them.

Let the person make their own decision(s).

This is important so the person feels in control.

Offer to go with the person to report to the police.

Accompanying someone when they report a stalker provides essential emotional support and enhances their sense of safety.

Encourage the person to document incidents and keep a diary/log.

This could be used as evidence. Include the date, time, location, situation, witnesses, how the stalking affects the person and any other useful information.

Be careful with YOUR social media.

This helps to ensure that you do not accidentally reveal the persons location or details to the stalker. Examples include not tagging them in photographs or check-in locations.

Encourage the person to seek professional support.

DO NOT victim blame.

Avoid using phrases that imply that the victim is at fault as this suggests that the victim could have prevented the stalking, which is not true.

DO NOT gossip or give out information about the person's situation.

Respect their privacy by keeping their situation confidential. Avoid sharing details to protect their safety and maintain their trust.

DO NOT confront the stalker on your own.

Taking matters into your own hands can escalate the situation and increase their risk.